Have you ever wanted to connect with others and build relationships? In this digital world, the art of conversation has almost become a lost art. The art of conversing and authentically connecting can build life-long relationships, boost family relationships and enlarge the world you live in.
How can you build your conversation and connecting skills?
Small talk is the ‘Appetizer.’
- If you are at a party, stay close to the food table and you can use the food as way to start a conversation. If you have food issues you might skip to the next couple of ideas.
- Share something you love, “I love to cook ________ and I just found __________. What do you enjoy cooking or eating?”
- Give authentic compliments – – what do you notice that you love about someone, and then share it!
- Ask open-ended questions – – – which means any question where the response would notbe yes or no. For example, you could ask “How do you know the host/speaker?”
Avoid the conversation/connecting Killers!!
- Don’t ask questions that can be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no.’
- Don’t be negative – – no one needs more negativity or complaining!
- Don’t loop – – say the same thing in detail several ways!
- Be aware of your body language and your eye contact (friendly and approachable, not closed off or over-inviting).
- Listen more than you talk.
- Don’t respond to questions with one word, open up and share a bit (1-2 sentences) which will encourage the other person to open up and communicate. . . now you are beginning to connect
- Ask for more information, “that’s interesting – tell me more.”
- Whether you are talking on the phone or in person– SMILE! A smile on your face changes the energy of your voice.